Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 10, 2026.
True manhood means character and service
“He was always in service to his family.”
In one sentence
True manhood in Islam is defined not by biology, dominance, or toughness, but by faith, responsibility, courage, purity, justice, self-control, and service to others.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Uses Umar ibn al-Khattab and early Muslim examples to frame righteous men as more valuable than wealth.
- Defines manliness as character, responsibility, sacrifice, courage, purity, and devotion, not biological sex or rigid dominance.
- Diagnoses a contemporary masculinity crisis through sexualized media, objectification, violence, and bystander silence.
- Calls families and young men to discuss moral courage, situational awareness, and standing against assault and injustice.
- Summarizes Islamic manhood through priorities, God-consciousness, emotional control, responsibility, courage, problem-solving, challenge, and truthfulness.
- Concludes with supplication and congregational prayer.
Try this week
Have honest conversations with children and young men about online sexualized media, assault, dignity, and bystander responsibility.
Practice situational awareness regarding friends, locations, online engagement, and surrounding environments.
Lower the gaze, control bodily desires, preserve chastity, and avoid temptations that mislead.
Set priorities around mindfulness of Allah, responsibility, justice, courage, problem-solving, challenge, and truthfulness.
Serve family members, uphold fairness, and stand against wrongdoing and injustice.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 33Uses believers who remain true to their pledge to define steadfast manhood.
Surah 9Links manhood with physical and spiritual purification.
Surah 24Describes men not distracted from remembrance, prayer, and zakah by commerce.
Surah 28Uses the warning to Musa as an example of courageous counsel and standing for right.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Manliness is not being stiff and rigid with your family, and, you know, being the tough persona, the one who doesn't, you know, smile.”
“He was always in service to his family. He repairs his own shoes, his own sandals. He would patch his own clothes.”
“Islam defines manliness and manhood to us. Islam defines our relationship between the opposite sexes. Islam gives us that protection.”
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