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Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Jan 10, 2026.

Guard your tongue with good speech

SNMC · Isa Ma

“Whoever truly believes in Allah and the hereafter, let him speak what is good or be silent.”

The khateeb, at 13:25

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In one sentence

Believers must guard their tongues by avoiding backbiting, cursing, obscenity, arrogance, and hatred while cultivating mercy, humility, silence, and beneficial speech.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. The khutbah frames sound speech and avoidance of backbiting as Quranic obligations.
  2. It explains that criticizing others often comes from arrogance, superiority, hatred, or division.
  3. Prophetic examples show forgiveness, gentleness, and refusing to repay insults with insults.
  4. It warns against foul, sexualized, and demeaning language, especially toward others in the community.
  5. The speaker recommends purposeful silence and pairing outward religious practice with inner mercy and humility.
  6. The khutbah closes with supplications, a reminder to guard the tongue, and brief community announcements.
Try this week
Practice silence when speech is unnecessary, untrue, or harmful.
Address a person's faults privately, with care and mercy.
Make sincere private dua for the person's guidance.
Mention people's good qualities alongside any needed correction.
Avoid curses, obscenity, sexualized comments, and reducing people to numbers.
Cultivate mercy, humility, care, and responsibility alongside outward religious practice.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quran 33:70-71Used to connect fearing Allah and speaking uprightly with righteous deeds and forgiveness.
Quran 49:12Used to condemn suspicion, spying, and backbiting through the image of eating a dead sibling's flesh.
Jami` at-TirmidhiThe central hadith teaches that a believer is not habitually insulting, cursing, obscene, or foul-mouthed.
Sahih al-BukhariProphetic examples show forgiveness toward attackers and gentleness when responding to insulting speech.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“even if you are factually better than that person you are talking about, remember who made you better.”
SNMC · Nepean, ON
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“whoever truly believes in Allah and the hereafter let him speak what is good or be silent”
SNMC · Nepean, ON
Play from 13:25
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah teaches that our words are a trust from Allah and can either heal people or harm them. When we notice someone's faults, we should speak privately with care, make dua for them, and remember their good qualities. The Prophet responded to insults with gentleness instead of returning evil for evil. We should avoid gossip, curses, obscenity, and hurtful jokes, and practice silence when we have nothing good to say. Our outward religious practice should be joined with mercy, humility, care, and responsibility.

  1. What is one kind or helpful thing you could say this week instead of criticizing someone?
  2. When might staying silent be wiser than replying?
  3. How can we correct a family member with mercy rather than embarrassment?
Where it was given

The masjid

South Nepean Muslim Community3020 Woodroffe Ave, Nepean, ON K2J 4G3Jumu'ah 12:00 PM & 1:15 PMKhateebIsa MaMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at SNMC58 khutbahs
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