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Narcissism grows from unexamined arrogance

JSMC · Zakareeya Baksh

“Every arrogance has conceitedness, but not every conceitedness has arrogance.”

The khateeb, at 9:39

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In one sentence

The khutbah argues that conceitedness and arrogance can develop into narcissistic denial of truth and lack of empathy, so Muslims must honestly inspect themselves, accept accountability, and seek Allah's help to change.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Introduces self-knowledge as honestly recognizing hidden flaws and weaknesses.
  2. Defines ujb as self-admiration and distinguishes it from kibr, or arrogance toward others.
  3. Explains narcissism as arrogance combined with severe lack of empathy and accountability.
  4. Describes narcissistic strategies including denial, manipulation, gaslighting, blame-shifting, and victim-playing.
  5. Applies these patterns to spouses, families, friendships, and workplaces.
  6. Offers remedies: recognize the danger, identify the trait in oneself, examine its causes, practice self-awareness, and seek Allah's guidance.
Try this week
Recognize narcissistic arrogance as spiritually dangerous rather than dismissing it as personality.
Honestly identify whether these traits exist in yourself and confront your hidden flaws.
Examine the personal causes behind the behavior, including past bullying, trauma, or excessive praise.
Seek therapy when unresolved experiences contribute to defensiveness and inability to accept accountability.
Practice self-awareness when the behavior appears, especially when nobody else is watching.
Seek Allah's help and guidance to purify the heart and avoid ujb and kibr.
Use the role-reversal test to assess whether an apology or standard is being applied consistently.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quran 3:102The opening verses frame the sermon with taqwa, human origin, truthful speech, and obedience.
Quran 4:1The opening verses frame the sermon with taqwa, human origin, truthful speech, and obedience.
Quran 33:70-71The opening verses frame the sermon with taqwa, human origin, truthful speech, and obedience.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“To know your flaws To know your weaknesses To kind of know the demons in your closet”
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“Every arrogance Has conceitedness But not every conceitedness Has arrogance What do we mean by that”
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“If they would never Accept the apology That they're giving to you Had roles been reversed Then you know That they're manipulating you Because that means That they have double standards”
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Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khateeb reminded us that knowing ourselves means noticing our flaws, including the ones we would rather hide away. He warned that being too impressed with ourselves can lead us to reject correction and put other people down. In everyday disagreements, this can show up as denying what happened, shifting blame, or avoiding a sincere apology. He asked us to look at our own behavior instead of only thinking about someone else who needs this reminder. We can work toward change by being honest with ourselves, considering where our habits come from, seeking help when needed, and asking Allah to purify our hearts.

  1. What helps you listen when someone points out a mistake?
  2. How could you apologize in a way that shows you understand the hurt you caused?
  3. What is one habit you would like Allah to help you improve this week?
Where it was given

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Jesus Son of Mary Center3457 W Kenyon Ave, Tampa, FL 33614Jumu'ah Khutbah 1:30 PMKhateebZakareeya BakshMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at JSMC80 khutbahs
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