Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 31, 2026.
Love is the cure for jealousy
“When it comes to the haram, you can manage your desires.”
In one sentence
The khutbah argues that jealousy harms both individuals and communities, and should be treated with love, charitable assumptions, fresh starts, and principled boundaries against wrongdoing.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Defines hasad as spiritually destructive, linking it to Shaytan’s jealousy and pride.
- Uses a medical-treatment analogy before presenting love as jealousy’s cure.
- Describes jealous behavior through backbiting, false friendliness, and delight in others’ misfortunes.
- Urges listeners to demand evidence, think positively, and begin each day without old hatred or negativity.
- Applies kindness and friendship to difficult relationships while maintaining firmness against oppression and pressure toward haram.
- Discusses peaceful conflict resolution and divorce, then closes with a reminder to arrive on time for Jumu'ah.
Try this week
Seek refuge in Allah from jealousy and jealous people.
Respond to jealous or hostile people with love, kindness, and friendship rather than revenge.
Demand evidence before believing accusations and choose a positive interpretation when possible.
Start each day by releasing hatred, frustration, racism, discrimination, and other negativity.
Refuse to participate in haram even when family or friends pressure you.
Address marital conflict through kindness, advice, temporary distance, therapy, and peaceful separation if necessary.
Arrive on time for Jumu'ah next week.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“The medication for jealousy, Imam alayhi s-salatu wa s-salam says, love.”
“Instead of hating him, you have to love him. If he's jealous to you, if he's jealous to your life, he's jealous to your position.”
“It's a new chapter in your life. Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala grants you a new life, new day that started fresh.”
“You don't have any control on anyone, but you have control on yourself. When it comes to the haram, you can manage your desires.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
Today’s khutbah focused on hasad, or jealousy, and how it damages hearts and relationships. Jealousy can lead to backbiting, pretending to be friendly, and feeling happy when someone else suffers. The speaker said its treatment is love, kindness, positive assumptions, and refusing to live inside old grudges. We should begin each day fresh, stay responsible for our own choices, and respond peacefully even when relationships become difficult, while refusing pressure to join anything haram.
- When have you seen kindness calm jealousy or resentment?
- What does it mean to start a new chapter with someone?
- How can we stay loving while still saying no to haram?
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