Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 27, 2025.
Correct actions without shaming people
“He's a good person that did something wrong.”
In one sentence
True Islamic accountability requires watching both what we say and how we say it, correcting actions with truth and rahmah while preserving every person’s dignity, including our own.
The khutbah in 5 steps
- Introduces taqwa and muhasabah: living aware of Allah and accounting for one’s choices.
- Teaches that truth must be spoken in the best, most merciful manner.
- Applies this to self-talk, distinguishing healthy accountability from self-bullying.
- Uses Maryam’s story and a hadith about a punished drinker to show judging actions without degrading people.
- Shares a personal story about helping a homeless convert and concludes with a call to communicate through rahmah.
Try this week
Review your choices and their consequences for the Hereafter.
Speak truthfully and gently, choosing the best wording rather than harsh or aggressive speech.
Replace self-insults with specific, constructive correction and a plan to improve.
Correct actions without labeling people, while reminding them of their good qualities.
When missing Fajr, sleep earlier, pray qiyam, and aim to pray Fajr in the masjid.
Help struggling people with dignity and encourage their return to Allah.
Sources the khateeb cited
Sahih al-BukhariCited a teaching against calling one’s soul filthy or impure, supporting constructive self-talk.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“This is not accountability. This is bullying. He says, if necessary, say, laqisat nafsi.”
“What you did is hideous. You've done something terrible. Did they say you are terrible? Did they attack her? Did they attack her as a person?”
“No, he's not a hypocrite. He's a human being. He's a good person that did something wrong.”
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