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Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Aug 9, 2025.

Keep your heart free of hatred

ICSD · Abdeljalil Mezgouri

“You have to control your action.”

The khateeb, at 18:35

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In one sentence

Believers should keep their hearts free of hatred and pursue spiritual excellence through generosity, anger control, forgiveness, repentance, and service motivated by Allah’s forgiveness and Paradise.

The khutbah in 5 steps

  1. Identifies the minimum standard for later believers: no hatred toward fellow believers.
  2. Presents forgiveness and Paradise as incentives to give in hardship and ease and restrain anger.
  3. Uses Abu Bakr’s response to the slander against Aisha to teach forgiving those who wrong us.
  4. Explains repentance as remembering Allah, seeking forgiveness, and refusing to persist in sin.
  5. Connects the lessons to Uhud’s defeat and closes with prayers for Gaza, the bereaved, detainees, and the community.
Try this week
Read periodically about the Muhajirun and Ansar and their sacrifices.
Keep the heart free of hatred toward believers and pray for forgiveness for oneself and others.
Give in both ease and hardship, according to one’s means.
Control angry words and actions, then work toward pardoning those who cause harm.
When sin occurs, remember Allah, seek forgiveness, repent, and do not persist.
Pray for and help suffering people, especially those in Gaza, as able.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 3Used to present forgiveness and Paradise as the incentive for righteousness, generosity, anger control, and forgiveness.
Surah 24Used through Abu Bakr’s story to urge forgiving and continuing support for someone who caused harm.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“The life is between this minimum and maximum. What are you going to do?”
ICSD · Clairemont, CA
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“You may not be able, To control your feelings. But you have to control your action. What you do, And what you say.”
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Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah taught that believers should at least keep hatred out of their hearts toward other Muslims, while striving for the higher example of the Companions. Allah’s forgiveness and Paradise should motivate us to give generously, control anger, forgive people who hurt us, and keep returning to Allah after mistakes. The speaker reminded us that making a mistake is not the end; we should seek forgiveness and avoid persisting in wrongdoing. Parents should combine firm guidance with mercy and forgiveness. He also asked the community to pray for people suffering in Gaza, the bereaved, and families facing hardship.

  1. When is it hardest for you to control what you say or do when angry?
  2. What is one way our family can practice forgiveness this week?
  3. What helps you return to Allah after making a mistake?
Where it was given

The masjid

Islamic Center of San Diego7050 Eckstrom Ave, San Diego, CA 92111Jumu'ah 12:00 PM & 1:30 PMKhateebAbdeljalil MezgouriMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at ICSD36 khutbahs
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