Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 19, 2026.
Take responsibility instead of blaming others
“With humility, we look into ourselves and we acknowledge that we are weak and we make mistakes.”
The khutbah in 4 steps
- Frames mistakes as inevitable and blame as a harmful response.
- Contrasts the Bible's blame narrative with the Qur'an's account of Adam and Hawa accepting responsibility.
- Applies the lesson to family conflict, cooperation, communal unity, and Muslim strength.
- Concludes by urging descriptive rather than judgmental speech, repentance, and self-examination.
Try this week
When mistakes happen, examine your own role before blaming others.
Acknowledge wrongdoing, repent, and ask Allah for forgiveness.
In conflicts, repair relationships instead of assigning blame.
Describe people's observable actions rather than making categorical judgments about them.
Cooperate in righteousness and other good deeds.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 7Adam and Hawa acknowledge their shared wrongdoing rather than blaming others.
Surah 2Allah's forgiveness of Adam and Hawa.
Surah 5Cooperating in righteousness rather than wrongdoing.
Surah 8Disputing causes Muslims to lose courage and strength.
Surah 3Holding together to Allah's rope and maintaining unity.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“The problem is in what we do afterwards. It's a human quality that whatever problem happens in our life, most of the time we jump into blaming others.”
“And with humility, we look into ourselves and we acknowledge that we are weak and we make mistakes.”
“What I can only emphasize, blaming is the sunnah of Shaitan. Blaming makes you so blind that it's going to take you up to blaming Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.”
“Please do not be judgmental. Please do not blame others. Hold the rope of Allah sallallahu wa ta'ala. All of us together, equally.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
Today’s khutbah reminded us that everyone makes mistakes, and our response to them matters. The khateeb presented Adam and Hawa as examples of humbly acknowledging a mistake and asking Allah for forgiveness. He contrasted their response with Shaitan’s arrogance and blame, encouraging us to look honestly at our own actions. He also explained that blame damages relationships and makes it harder to work together for good. As a family, we can practice admitting our mistakes, seeking Allah’s forgiveness, and speaking about specific actions with care as we mend relationships.
- What could you say after making a mistake that would help put things right?
- What is one good thing our family could cooperate on this week?
- How could you explain something that upset you without calling someone a hurtful name?
Where it was given
The masjid
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