Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 17, 2025.
Replace suspicion and jealousy with remembrance
“Make the criteria for your relationship Allah, not you yourself.”
In one sentence
Believers should protect their inner thoughts and tongues from Shaytan, especially by replacing suspicion, jealousy, and backbiting with remembrance of Allah and ethical speech.
The khutbah in 5 steps
- Continues discussing Dua Makarim al-Akhlaq and Shaytan’s whispers.
- Explains invisible sins such as long wishes, bad assumptions, and jealousy.
- Recommends replacing these thoughts with remembrance of Allah’s greatness and power.
- Uses a report from Imam Sadiq about guarding the stomach and tongue.
- Explains ghibah, false allegation, and the sin of listening to backbiting before concluding with a prayer for protection.
Try this week
Replace long wishes, suspicion, and jealousy with remembrance of Allah’s greatness and power.
Make Allah the criterion for relationships rather than personal ego.
Guard the stomach from haram and the tongue from sinful speech.
Avoid both speaking and listening to ghibah, and do not use exceptions as excuses.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Let me think about your greatness. You are the great.”
“Make the criteria for your relationship Allah, not you yourself.”
“If you do this too, I give you the guarantee that you will enter paradise.”
“So it's better. all the time, refrain from any kind of ghibat. Not just doing, listening. Both are haram.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
This khutbah teaches that spiritual harm can begin in private thoughts before it appears in our actions. Jealousy, suspicion, and selfish wishes should be replaced with remembrance of Allah’s greatness and power. We should guard both what enters our stomachs and what leaves our tongues, especially by avoiding ghibah. The speaker reminds us that listening to backbiting is also wrong, so we should help conversations remain respectful and honest.
- When have you replaced a jealous or suspicious thought with a better thought?
- What could you say if friends begin discussing someone behind their back?
- Why do you think the khutbah compares backbiting to eating a dead brother’s flesh?
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