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Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Nov 21, 2025.

Control your tongue and treat people gently

NIA Masjid

“Allah will feed you like He feeds the birds.”

The khateeb, at 11:35

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In one sentence

Surah al-Humaza warns believers against bullying, abusive speech, and hoarding wealth, urging them to develop gentle character, generosity, gratitude, disciplined worship, and reliance on Allah.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Explains Surah al-Humaza as a warning against bullying, slander, and harmful character.
  2. Urges listeners to control violence, cursing, backbiting, and intimidating behavior.
  3. Contrasts wealth obsession and hoarding with responsible work, tawakkul, gratitude, and generosity.
  4. Uses examples from the Prophet's household to reframe charity as lasting investment in the Hereafter.
  5. Describes al-Hutamah and the difficulty of resisting desires while pursuing good deeds.
  6. Calls for daily beneficial learning, lawful provision, accepted deeds, gentle family guidance, and consistent small donations.
Try this week
Stop fighting, bullying, cursing, backbiting, and intimidating others.
Control the tongue, hands, and desires.
Work hard and improve skills while relying on Allah for results.
Give charity consistently, beginning with a small amount such as a dollar a week or month.
Practice gratitude by saying Alhamdulillah in every circumstance.
Seek beneficial knowledge, lawful provision, and accepted deeds each day.
Teach family members gently and consistently.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 104Used to warn against bullying, abusive speech, hoarding wealth, and the consequences of these traits.
Surah 7Invoked to illustrate the helplessness of family members before judgment.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“it's good for you no matter what situation you're in you say Alhamdulillah all praises be to Allah and you thank Allah for that and you're grateful for that”
NIA Masjid · Roseville · Newark, NJ
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“if you had the tawakkun in Allah the right way he said Allah will feed you like He feeds the birds”
NIA Masjid · Roseville · Newark, NJ
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“do not get into fights and calm yourself down remember to not be this bully type mentality speak easy with people don't let people be afraid of your tongue”
NIA Masjid · Roseville · Newark, NJ
Play from 25:15
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The sermon teaches that Islam calls us to become people whose words and actions make others feel safe. Surah al-Humaza warns against bullying, harmful speech, and becoming obsessed with collecting wealth. We should work hard while trusting Allah, remain grateful, and see opportunities to help others as gifts from Him. Each day we can seek beneficial knowledge, lawful provision, and good deeds that Allah accepts. Loving our families also means advising them gently and building small, consistent habits of generosity.

  1. What can we do this week to make people feel safer around us?
  2. How can we show gratitude when things do not go exactly as we hoped?
  3. What small act of giving or helping could our family practice regularly?
Where it was given

The masjid

NIA Masjid & Community Center229-231 Roseville Ave, Newark, NJ 07107Jumu'ah Khutbah 1:00 PM (livestreamed on YouTube)ArchiveAll khutbahs at NIA Masjid39 khutbahs
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