Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, May 30, 2026.
Correct others with wisdom, not shame
“We need to apply hikmah especially with the people who are coming into the deen.”
In one sentence
Muslims should encourage good and discourage wrong by beginning with self-reform and using wisdom, patience, gentle speech, and context-sensitive correction so they guide rather than alienate others.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Defines life’s purpose as worship alongside enjoining good and forbidding wrong.
- Urges Muslims to begin this duty with themselves, then extend it to family and society through hikmah.
- Uses Quranic guidance to emphasize gentle speech, good instruction, and sensitivity to different levels of faith.
- Describes mosque and family examples where harsh or public correction alienated newcomers and children.
- Presents prophetic examples of gradual teaching, situational judgment, restraint, and indirect correction.
- Closes by urging control of the tongue, personal consistency, and wisdom toward families, coworkers, and converts.
Try this week
Begin correcting wrongdoing by working on your own conduct first.
Use wisdom, gentle speech, and good instruction instead of public humiliation.
Give new Muslims time and space to learn and grow in Islam.
Guard the tongue and use it for guidance, kindness, and constructive correction.
Make newcomers feel welcome in the mosque and avoid assumptions based on appearance, names, or clothing.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 30Used to connect mercy and affectionate speech with healthy marriage and relationships.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Amr bin Maruf and Nahya al-Munkar starts from our soul our own selves when we work on our own self when we enjoy what is good and forbid what is wrong”
“he stopped coming to the masjid because he didn't feel he was welcome there anymore”
“we need to apply hikmah especially with the people who are coming into the deen because we as born muslims a lot of us we take islam for granted”
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