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Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Jan 2, 2026.

Gentle character brings people closer to Allah

Qalam · Mikaeel Smith

“The first way we win hearts is service.”

The khateeb, at 23:04

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In one sentence

The khutbah argues that Muslims draw people closer to Allah through gentle, generous, patient, service-oriented character, especially within their families, and by bringing others joy.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Surah Ali Imran 3:159 establishes gentleness as a mercy that attracts people.
  2. The Abu Mas'ud hadith shows inconsiderate conduct can drive people away from prayer and Allah.
  3. The khutbah emphasizes that excellent character must begin at home, especially among siblings.
  4. Generosity toward family is presented as a path toward closeness to Allah and Paradise.
  5. Serving others and fulfilling their needs is taught as the first way to win hearts.
  6. Hilm, or patient forbearance, means absorbing provocation and releasing anger.
Try this week
Reach out to a sibling and begin a renewed relationship.
Serve family members and fulfill their needs without resistance.
Notice when someone is distressed and offer practical help.
Practice hilm by breathing, releasing anger, and patiently absorbing provocation.
Be easygoing in buying, selling, repayment, and accepting returns.
Look for ways to bring joy and reassurance to another person.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 3Uses the Prophet's gentleness as evidence that soft character draws people toward him.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“That when you push people away from you, it's not just you, but oftentimes you're pushing them away from Allah, Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, as well.”
Qalam · Carrollton, TX
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“The first way we win hearts is service, service of another person, serving them, helping them, and fulfilling the needs that they have.”
Qalam · Carrollton, TX
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“You are priceless in the sight of Allah subhanahu wa'ala.”
Qalam · Carrollton, TX
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Where it was given

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