Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Aug 23, 2025.
Control anger before it harms family
“When you are getting angry, keep silent.”
In one sentence
The khutbah argues that controlling anger, speech, and arguments through prophetic guidance protects faith, relationships, and family life.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Opens with praise, testimony, and a prayer for relief for people in Gaza.
- Identifies uncontrolled anger as widespread and introduces the Prophet’s repeated advice not to become angry.
- Explains that anger often comes from refusing to listen and assuming one’s own opinion is always correct.
- Presents patient listening, peaceful responses, and abandoning arguments as prophetic manners.
- Applies the lesson to marriage, divorce, joking, teasing, insults, backbiting, and hurtful speech.
- Closes with practical advice to seek Allah’s protection, remain silent when angry, and remember that every word is recorded.
Try this week
Listen fully before responding, especially when someone disagrees.
Give up arguments even when you believe you are right.
Leave a conversation once it becomes insulting or negative.
Seek refuge in Allah when experiencing Shaytan’s whispers or intense anger.
Stay silent when angry and pause before speaking.
Avoid harmful pranks, insults, cursing, backbiting, and hurtful reminders.
Treat spouses gently and remember that neither spouse is perfect.
Sources the khateeb cited
Sahih al-BukhariThe repeated prophetic instruction “Do not get angry” is presented as a central remedy.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“I can guarantee a house. In the middle of a jannah. For the person who gives up arguments. Even if you are right.”
“Every word you say. It is written down by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.”
“When you are getting angry. Keep silent. That's it. That's one of the solutions.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
Today’s khutbah was about handling anger before it harms our faith and relationships. The speaker reminded us that none of us is perfect, so we should listen fully, avoid arguments, and leave a conversation when it becomes insulting. He urged us to be gentle in marriage and not use pranks, teasing, curses, backbiting, or hurtful reminders to provoke others. When anger rises, we should seek Allah’s protection, stay silent, and remember that every word is recorded. The khutbah also opened with a prayer for relief for people in Gaza.
- What helps you pause before saying something hurtful?
- When can a joke stop being funny?
- What is one way our family can handle disagreement more gently?
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