Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Jul 18, 2026.
Control anger before it harms others
“The strong man is not one who is good at wrestling, but the strong man is one who controls himself in a fit of rage.”
In one sentence
Anger is an innate human quality that Muslims cannot eliminate but must restrain, true strength and prophetic character lie in controlling one's temper, getting angry only for Allah's sake, and returning immediately to forgiveness.
The khutbah in 8 steps
- Gratitude for life and safety amid a tense, conflict-ridden world
- Surah al-Baqarah 2:155, tests of fear and loss, glad tidings to the patient
- Anger as the opposite of patience: universal to humanity but must be restrained
- Bukhari hadith 'do not become angry', anger as the root of many evils
- Ibrahim's peaceful reply to his father's threat of stoning (Surah Maryam 19:46-47)
- The Prophet smiling at the Bedouin who yanked his cloak; Surah Aal-e-Imran 3:159 on leniency
- Second khutbah: the strong man controls his rage (Abu Huraira hadith); Musa's anger at the golden calf (Surah Taha; al-A'raf 7:150), anger only for Allah, then immediate tawbah
- Close: drop grudges, don't cut family ties; announcements, a brother's shahada, and du'a for the deceased and sick
Try this week
Control your temper and never let anger make you lash out, insult others, or disobey Allah
Reflect on the last time you got angry and whether the reason was for Allah's sake or personal frustration
Give people the benefit of the doubt, forgive and forget instead of seeking revenge
Do not hold grudges or cut ties with family; clear up small misunderstandings by talking
Turn back to Allah and ask forgiveness immediately after getting angry rather than delaying reconciliation
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 2Allah tests with fear, hunger, and loss of wealth and lives; glad tidings belong to the patient
Sahih al-BukhariA man asked the Prophet for advice and he twice answered 'do not become angry', anger is the root of many evils
Surah 19Ibrahim answered his father's threat of stoning with 'Peace on you' and a promise to seek forgiveness for him
Quran 3:159By Allah's mercy the Prophet was lenient; had he been harsh, the companions would have disbanded from him
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“That Islam was not spread by the sword, but Islam was spread through the akhlaq and the mannerisms”
“Just because I'm upset doesn't mean I need to make everybody else upset.”
“the strong man is not one who is good at wrestling, but the strong man is one who controls himself in a fit of rage.”
“That we should always be people that even though we might get angry, don't stay angry and don't hold a grudge against people.”
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