Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Aug 22, 2026.
How the Prophet stopped tribal conflict
“The definition of a Muslim is the one that others around him have peace from his hand and his tongue.”
In one sentence
The story of the Black Stone shows how the Prophet’s moral character and practical intelligence created psychological safety, diffused tribal conflict, and should shape Muslims’ treatment of others.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Introduces the Black Stone through the Prophet’s divinely affirmed character.
- Recounts how Meccan tribes nearly fought over the honor of placing the Black Stone during Kaaba renovations.
- Explains how the Prophet’s reputation created trust and psychological safety.
- Shows how the cloak solution shared honor among the tribes and restored their common purpose.
- Applies the lesson to forgiveness, emotional restraint, fair transactions, avoiding deception and backbiting, and attentive listening.
- Concludes with Anas’s account of the Prophet’s generosity, bravery, and urgent leadership in Medina.
Try this week
Pardon others and resolve disagreements before they fester or become legal disputes.
Avoid foul language, insults, backbiting, deception, and physical harm.
Deal fairly and generously in buying, selling, and lending.
Give people undivided attention, including children.
Fix urgent problems first and teach lessons after emotions have calmed.
Do not hurt others while trying to kiss the Black Stone.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 68Affirms the Prophet’s excellent moral character.
Surah 7Commands pardon, promoting good, and avoiding emotionally uncontrolled people.
Sahih MuslimDefines a Muslim as someone whose hand and tongue leave others safe.
Surah 49Warns against speaking about people behind their backs.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“The prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam says the definition of a muslim is the one that others around him have peace from his hand and his tongue”
“he put the black stone on the cloak and he said now each of you carries a part of it”
“the number one thing to do is to fix the problem number one don't lecture the people just yet lecture them on day two or day three when things have been calmed down give the lesson”
“the things that people will remember is how you made them feel how you made them feel”
Where it was given
The masjids
Muslim Association of Puget Sound, Redmond17550 NE 67th Ct, Redmond, WA 98052Jumu'ah 1:15 PM first prayer · 2:15 PM second prayer · 3:50 PM youth prayerMAPS Seattle2100 5th Ave, Seattle, WA 98121Jumu'ah First prayer 12:15 PM · second prayer 1:15 PMKhateebAlaa BadrMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at MAPS Redmond20 khutbahs
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