Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Mar 3, 2026.
Speak beneficially or choose silence
“If you can say it properly, then say it. But an even better option is just remain silent.”
In one sentence
The khutbah argues that a believer protects faith and relationships by weighing every word, speaking only what is beneficial, and choosing meaningful silence, especially during Ramadan.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Introduces speech as a spiritual treasure with two choices: beneficial speech or silence.
- Warns that idle, harmful, and careless words can damage fasting and lead to punishment.
- Explains that every utterance is accountable and gives a prophetic example about hurtful remarks.
- Urges listeners to weigh words, control reactions, and accept silence even when they believe they are right.
- Uses pearls and Mufti Mahmood al-Hasan's silence to connect restraint with listening and meaningfulness.
- Calls listeners to review their first ten days of Ramadan and practice restraint for the remaining days.
Try this week
Speak only when what you say is beneficial; otherwise remain silent.
When provoked while fasting, say “I am fasting” rather than responding harmfully.
Weigh your words before speaking and consider their consequences.
Choose silence instead of arguing, even when you believe you are right.
Review your speech-related mistakes from the first ten days of Ramadan and correct them during the remaining days.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“There is no third option for idleness, idle talk, gossip. There is no third option for futile talk, talk we make an agitation, talks that come out of our mouth when we just have to get something out.”
“Stop speaking your mind. And we have to put a control in what we say, and how we say what we say.”
“When will it be such that you and I listen? When will it be such that you and I take in what the next person has to say?”
“If you can say it properly, then say it. But an even better option is just remain silent.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
This khutbah reminds us that our words are a trust. The Prophet taught that a believer should say what is beneficial or remain silent, especially when anger or argument tempts us. Silence is not empty when it helps us listen, avoid hurting others, and control the urge to win. During Ramadan, we can review our speech and practice weighing our words before we say them.
- When has staying quiet helped you avoid making a situation worse?
- What is one beneficial thing you could say more often this week?
- How can we become better listeners at home?
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