Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Aug 28, 2026.
Wait to be asked before advising
In one sentence
The khutbah argues that humility, especially waiting to be asked before giving brief and respectful advice, protects relationships while seeking superiority destroys them.
The khutbah in 5 steps
- An Imam's warning is presented: argument, rivalry, and seeking superiority damage friendships and sever relationships.
- The warning is applied to individual, family, and community life.
- Humility, gentleness, and politeness are urged instead of always appearing right or looking down on others.
- Listeners are told to wait until someone asks before offering advice.
- When advice is requested, it should acknowledge the person's own knowledge and remain brief and respectful.
Try this week
Practice humility, softness, and politeness in relationships.
Wait until someone explicitly asks before offering advice.
Acknowledge that others understand their own situations better than you do.
When advice is requested, keep it brief, respectful, and to the point.
Avoid making the other person feel foolish.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 103Recited to emphasize faith, righteous action, truth, and patience.
Quran 16:90Recited as a closing command toward justice, excellence, and care for relatives while avoiding wrongdoing.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“so we should wait... until we are asked... when we are requested...”
“that is the time... that we should... offer our... advice... we should... show our knowledge... our expertise... or whatever... we have with people...”
“this is the way... how to... keep the... family... keep the... friends... keep the... bonds... and... keep the... relationships...”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
The khutbah teaches that trying to appear superior or always right can quietly damage friendships, families, and community ties. We should be humble, gentle, and polite, and avoid giving people unsolicited sermons or advice. When someone asks for help, we should remember that they know their own situation best, then offer brief and respectful guidance. This kind of humility helps keep our relationships strong.
- When is advice helpful, and when can it feel unwanted?
- What does being humble sound like in a family conversation?
- How can we protect our friendships when disagreements happen?
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