45:13 This is our deen that…49:46 Respect is when a…51:00 We need to understand…52:40 Use it in a sweet way…
Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 6, 2025.

Respect should shape our words and actions

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“We need to understand the value of our tongues.”

The khateeb, at 51:00

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In one sentence

Respectful conduct toward parents, elders, children, and community members is a central expression of faith that must shape both our behavior and speech.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Opens with blessings, prayers, and a Qur'anic reference to Musa confronting Pharaoh.
  2. Frames adab through respectful treatment of parents, elders, and young people.
  3. Uses the story of Uwais al-Qarni to illustrate honoring an elderly mother.
  4. Applies adab to community disagreements, urging private and sincere correction.
  5. Presents speech as a trust, warning against harmful yelling and encouraging gentle words.
  6. Distinguishes harmful shouting from purposeful loud speech and closes with supplication.
Try this week
Call living parents daily or at least every few days.
Make dua for parents who have passed away.
Advise people privately, sincerely, and respectfully rather than humiliating them publicly.
Reflect on harmful speech and make istighfar when wrong.
Avoid yelling at parents, children, or others to hurt or intimidate them.
Use a raised voice only for legitimate purposes such as the adhan, warning someone of danger, or helping someone with hearing difficulty.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“This is our deen that teaches us the beauty of respecting our parents and elders.”
ICSB · Lomita, CA
Play from 45:13
“Respect is when a person is with, when he wants to advise someone, he advises with sincerity and with adab and respect.”
ICSB · Lomita, CA
Play from 49:46
“We need to understand the value of our tongues. And we need to use it the way Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la has commended us.”
ICSB · Lomita, CA
Play from 51:00
“Use it in a sweet way and it will benefit you inshallah.”
ICSB · Lomita, CA
Play from 52:40
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

This khutbah reminded us that adab means showing respect and care through our words and actions. The khateeb encouraged us to honor parents and elders and treat younger people with compassion. He shared a story about Uwais choosing to return to his elderly mother, showing how caring for family can be a deeply meaningful act of faith. He also explained that advice should be offered sincerely and respectfully, without embarrassing someone in front of others. Our speech is a trust from Allah, so we should use it kindly, reflect when we make mistakes, and seek forgiveness for harmful words.

  1. How would you want someone to correct you if you made a mistake?
  2. What could you say when you feel upset that would still be kind?
Where it was given

The masjid

Islamic Center of South Bay - LA (Masjid Al-Noor)25816 Walnut St, Lomita, CA 90717Jumu'ah 1:00 PM & 2:00 PMArchiveAll khutbahs at ICSB32 khutbahs
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