Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Nov 21, 2025.
True adab means kindness without expecting repayment
“A good person sees it's a debt he owes to himself to do good to others.”
In one sentence
True adab is a God-centered, selfless commitment to courteous conduct, and following the Prophet and Ahl al-Bayt leads to human excellence in this life and the hereafter.
The khutbah in 8 steps
- Recites Surah Ya-Sin and an extended supplication for forgiveness and mercy.
- Announces community programs, prayer times, condolences, and charitable needs.
- Uses travel observations to introduce adab as good manners and human decency.
- Illustrates prophetic manners through posture, greetings, handshakes, and personal presentation.
- Defines noble conduct as kindness given without expecting repayment.
- Organizes adab into social interaction, awareness of Allah, communal necessity, and life consequences.
- Warns that arrogance, exemplified by Iblis, destroys human honor and spiritual rank.
- Concludes with prayers, Ziyarat Waritha, and supplications for the sick, Palestine, the deceased, and Imam al-Zaman.
Try this week
Speak gently, respectfully, and honor others in daily interactions.
Be patient and let others go ahead instead of pushing or rushing.
Practice kindness without expecting repayment, recognition, or favors.
Worship with awareness that Allah sees and hears you.
Follow the Prophet’s and Ahl al-Bayt’s example in everyday conduct.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“a good person sees it's a debt he owes to himself to do good to others.”
“We must refine ourselves to this level. And then most importantly maintain it. Without any expectation.”
“If I believe Allah is watching me. Will I dare to lie to you? No way, because I know Allah is watching me.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
Today’s khutbah taught that adab means treating people with courtesy, patience, and respect. Good manners include gentle speech, letting others go first, and showing consideration even in small moments. The khateeb emphasized that real kindness is offered because it is right, not because we expect something back. Remembering that Allah sees and hears us can help us act honestly and humbly. Following the Prophet and Ahl al-Bayt helps us protect the honor Allah has given human beings.
- When did someone show you patience or kindness without expecting anything back?
- How might remembering that Allah sees us change one choice we make tomorrow?
- What does arrogance look like in everyday family life, and how can we respond to it?
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