Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Aug 3, 2026.
A successful Muslim guards the tongue
“The believer speaks because there is benefit, because there is mercy, because there is wisdom in what he utters.”
In one sentence
A successful Muslim combines worship with good character by guarding the tongue, avoiding what does not concern them, controlling anger, and purifying the heart.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Contrasts intensive worship with harming others, arguing that worship and character must be combined.
- Introduces four pillars of akhlaq derived from prophetic hadith.
- Explains controlling speech, avoiding gossip, and verifying information before sharing it.
- Urges listeners to stop prying into other people's affairs and focus on self-improvement.
- Teaches anger management and cultivating a pure heart free from envy and resentment.
- Concludes with four practical reminders and a prayer for improved manners.
Try this week
Before speaking, commenting, forwarding, or posting, ask whether it is beneficial, merciful, wise, and pleasing to Allah; otherwise remain silent.
Verify information before spreading it.
Stop prying into private affairs and gossiping about other people's lives.
When anger rises, sit or lie down, make wudu, leave the room, and stay quiet.
When someone else prospers, respond sincerely with happiness and make dua for their blessings.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quran 50:18Emphasizes that every spoken word is recorded and accountable.
Quran 3:102Opening exhortation to fear Allah and remain Muslim until death.
Quran 4:1Opening reminder of shared human origin, family ties, and Allah's watchfulness.
Quran 33:70-71Opening exhortation to speak upright words, leading to sound deeds and forgiveness.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“our deen is ibadat and muamalat. It is acts of worship and transactions, dealings, relationship with the creator, relationship with the creation. Both combined.”
“The believer speaks because there is benefit, because there is mercy, because there is wisdom in what he utters.”
“Silence is not a weakness. It's a sign that you became the master of your tongue.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
The khutbah teaches that being a strong Muslim is not only about praying and fasting; it is also about how we treat people. We should say something good or stay quiet, avoid prying into matters that do not concern us, and pause when anger rises. We should also clean our hearts of envy and be genuinely happy when others receive blessings. This week, we can carry these four habits from the masjid into our homes, phones, roads, and workplaces.
- How can we know when it is better to stay quiet?
- What helps you calm down when you feel angry?
- How can we show happiness when someone else receives a blessing?
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