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Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Jan 3, 2026.

Restrain anger and practice hilm

Maryam Islamic Center

“Haleem is only known in the fist of fury.”

The khateeb, at 9:57

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In one sentence

Because Allah is al-Haleem, giving people time to repent rather than punishing them immediately, believers should cultivate hilm by restraining anger and practicing concrete prophetic responses.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Defines hilm as composure and freedom from revenge when provoked, then introduces Allah as al-Haleem.
  2. Uses Quranic imagery and hadith to show that Allah’s delayed punishment is an opportunity for repentance, not permission to persist in sin.
  3. Applies hilm to human conduct, especially restraint when one has the power to retaliate, and connects it to good manners.
  4. Explains three dangers of anger: disabling judgment, opening the way to further sins, and increasing Satan’s influence.
  5. Gives practical methods for anger control, including anticipating triggers, remembering Allah, making wudu, changing posture, guarding the tongue and hands, and seeking anger-management help.
  6. Connects anger to ego and excessive expectations, then closes by urging patience with family and asking Allah for hilm.
Try this week
Treat delayed punishment as an opportunity to repent, not a license to persist in sin.
Before entering a difficult situation or returning home, anticipate likely triggers and plan a calm response.
Remember Allah’s greatness and fear during an episode of anger.
Make wudu when angry.
If standing, sit; if sitting, lie down to become closer to the earth.
Silence the tongue and keep the hands close during anger.
Take anger-management classes if needed.
Lower the ego and reduce expectations of preferential treatment, especially with family.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 35Shows Allah holding the heavens and earth together and delaying punishment because He is Haleem.
Surah 52Uses the restrained oceans as imagery for Allah’s control and forbearance.
Surah 35Supports the warning that delayed accountability is temporary and ends at an appointed time.
Musnad AhmadThe speaker cites narrations about oceans seeking permission to punish corruption and Allah restraining them while awaiting repentance.
Musnad AhmadThe speaker cites the instruction to shield others from one’s anger in order to be shielded from Allah’s anger.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“haleem is only known in the fist of fury. It's only when you are in a situation and someone's pressing your buttons.”
Maryam Islamic Center · Sugar Land (New Territory), TX
Play from 9:57
“Do not let your anger hijack you. Do not let your anger possess you and grip you.”
Maryam Islamic Center · Sugar Land (New Territory), TX
Play from 11:36
“take anger management classes there's no shame in that game”
Maryam Islamic Center · Sugar Land (New Territory), TX
Play from 21:32
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

Today’s khutbah focused on Allah’s name al-Haleem, meaning that Allah does not punish every wrong immediately and gives people time to return to Him. That patience is a gift, not permission to keep sinning. We were reminded that hilm means staying composed when provoked, especially when we have the power to retaliate. The khateeb recommended remembering Allah, making wudu, changing our posture, guarding our tongue and hands, planning for difficult moments, and seeking anger-management help when needed. At home, we can practice this patience by lowering our ego and giving our family the best of our treatment.

  1. When is it hardest for you to keep your anger from taking over?
  2. Which anger-calming practice would you like to try this week?
  3. How can we give our family the best of our treatment?
  4. What is the difference between receiving another chance and feeling entitled to mercy?
Where it was given

The masjid

Maryam Islamic Center (New Territory Islamic Center)504 Sartartia Rd, Sugar Land, TX 77479Jumu'ah 1:30 PM khutbah / 2:00 PM salah & 3:15 PM khutbah / 3:45 PM salahArchiveAll khutbahs at Maryam Islamic Center63 khutbahs
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