Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 12, 2025.
True modesty protects us when no one watches
In one sentence
True haya, or modesty, is a comprehensive awareness of Allah that protects a believer’s thoughts, senses, actions, and morality, especially when no one else is watching.
The khutbah in 5 steps
- Introduces haya as an obligation for all believers, not only women, and illustrates it through the Prophet’s conduct.
- Explains true haya as guarding the head, body, senses, consumption, and actions while remembering death and the afterlife.
- Warns that abandoning haya enables private sin, public obscenity, social-media exploitation, and broader moral wrongdoing.
- Identifies awareness of Allah, accountability, death, obedience, and detachment from worldly beauty as safeguards for haya.
- Calls listeners to learn the Quran and Sunnah, practice better character, and ask Allah for sincere modesty.
Try this week
Guard your eyes, ears, tongue, stomach, limbs, and private parts from what Allah has forbidden.
Remember Allah’s constant awareness, death, the grave, resurrection, and accountability before acting privately.
Do good for Allah’s sake rather than merely to avoid people’s criticism.
Reduce immersion in worldly beauty, popularity, views, and likes.
Learn the Quran, Sunnah, and the Prophet’s character to distinguish upright morality from corruption.
Regularly ask Allah to rectify your character and grant true haya.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 33Used the account of guests lingering after the Prophet’s wedding to show his modesty and Allah’s guidance about respecting privacy.
Jami` at-TirmidhiUsed the narration from Abdullah ibn Mas'ud to define true haya as guarding the head, body, and remembering death.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“And sometimes when we think about these terms we might relegate it to it being a characteristic that is feminine or for the women.”
“To prevent your eyes from looking at that which is haram. To prevent your ears from listening to that which is forbidden. To prevent your tongue from saying that which is forbidden.”
“But what holds them back. Is the fact that Allah sees them. Is the fact that they are going to be held to account.”
“What was morally upright. And morally corrupt. During the time of the messenger. Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Stays the same until the end of time.”
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