Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Aug 29, 2025.
Let go of arguments, even when right
“Sometimes you have the truth on your side.”
In one sentence
The khutbah warns that compulsive argumentation and insisting on the last word reveal pride, block acceptance of truth, and damage relationships, so believers should practice humility and let futile disputes go.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Distinguishes studying righteous qualities from recognizing traits of hypocrites and evil people.
- Examines a Quranic case study of a boastful hypocrite described through numerous negative traits.
- Focuses on aladdul khisam: the argumentative person who insists on having the last word.
- Contrasts destructive argument with sincere, wise debate conducted for Allah’s sake.
- Applies the warning to social media, marriage, everyday relationships, and listening habits.
- Calls listeners to humility, gentleness, and abandoning arguments when possible.
Try this week
Turn off phones and remain silent and attentive during the khutbah.
Notice when you are preparing a reply instead of considering what someone is saying.
Let go of arguments even when you are right, especially in personal relationships.
Debate only when seeking truth for Allah’s sake, using wisdom and good manners.
Practice gentleness and humility by accepting that you may be wrong.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 2Connects sweet outward speech with hidden argumentative hostility and hypocrisy.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“they are listening to you not with the intent of considering what you have to say, but considering how they can reply to what you have to say.”
“a person who always has to snap back, always has a response, always has a retort.”
“Sometimes you have the truth on your side. It's okay. You let it go.”
“I swear by Allah that I never debated anyone except that I did not care if Allah put the truth on his tongue or my tongue.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
The khutbah teaches that constantly arguing can come from pride and a desire to always be right. A person may hear others only to prepare a reply instead of sincerely considering the truth. The speaker encourages us to pause, show humility, and let some arguments go, even when we are correct. Debate can be worthwhile when it seeks truth and uses wisdom, but everyday disputes often need gentleness instead. This lesson applies at home, online, and in every relationship.
- When has letting go of the last word helped a relationship?
- How can we listen for truth instead of listening for a chance to reply?
- What makes a disagreement respectful and useful?
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