Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Nov 17, 2025.
Modesty should shape every part of life
“You don't use vulgarity in your language.”
In one sentence
The khutbah argues that haya, or modesty and moral decency, is an essential branch of faith that should shape clothing, speech, public and private conduct, parenting, and one's relationship with Allah.
The khutbah in 7 steps
- Introduces iman as a tree with many branches, emphasizing modesty as an integral branch.
- Defines haya as a beautiful character trait that motivates virtue and distances a person from vice.
- Explains that haya extends beyond clothing to speech, social dealings, private conduct, and resistance to sin.
- Uses examples from the Prophet and Uthman to illustrate exemplary modesty and distinguishes haya from mere shyness.
- Explains haya with people, including social influences, entertainment, media, and parents' responsibility to guide children.
- Presents three levels of haya: with people, with oneself, and with Allah.
- Concludes with four practices of haya with Allah: guarding one's faculties, consuming what is wholesome, remembering death, and leaving worldly extravagance.
Try this week
Dress in a way that adequately covers the body.
Guard speech by avoiding vulgarity and offensive behavior.
Pray on time even when outside, finding a quiet place if necessary.
Discuss haya with children, including media, dress, speech, and online behavior.
Protect what enters the mind and body, consume halal and wholesome things, remember death, and reduce worldly extravagance.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Haya' will motivate you That when you speak You speak good You don't use vulgarity In your language”
“Many a times I'm on the verge of doing something bad and evil But haya' and modesty comes in the middle And prevents me from doing that”
“But as parents You spend the most time With your children You need to speak to them”
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