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Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Jul 25, 2026.

Correct others privately, not through gossip

ICI · Muntasir Zaman

“There's a stark difference between nasiha, which is to give well-wishing advice.”

The khateeb, at 4:44

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In one sentence

Muslims should protect one another’s dignity by offering loving correction privately, avoiding gossip and fault-finding, and examining their own oppression before judging others.

The khutbah in 7 steps

  1. Establishes the sanctity of Muslim dignity and distinguishes sincere nasiha from public shaming.
  2. Uses Imam al-Shafi‘i’s advice to contrast private correction with public exposure.
  3. Recounts Sa‘d ibn Abi Waqqas’s experience to show the damage of rumors and the danger of the oppressed person’s prayer.
  4. Urges listeners to examine their own treatment of family, coworkers, spouses, and others.
  5. Explains the difference between public wrongdoing and private sins through examples involving Ibn Mas‘ud and a khalifa.
  6. Cites scholars and Sahih Muslim on praying for people rather than seeking and exposing their faults.
  7. Concludes by urging listeners to restrain conversations, speak lovingly, and protect all people from their tongues and hands.
Try this week
Give correction privately and with love, concern, wisdom, and politeness.
Do not gossip, spy, stalk, or search for people’s hidden faults.
When a conversation turns toward a third person’s behavior, rein it in.
Pray for people whose faults are mentioned instead of spreading their shortcomings.
Regularly examine whether you are fair, kind, respectful, and caring in your relationships.
Sources the khateeb cited
Sahih al-BukhariThe story of Sa'd ibn Abi Waqqas illustrated rumor, investigation, false accusation, and the prayer of the oppressed.
Sahih MuslimWarned against deliberately seeking out and exposing people’s hidden faults.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“There's a stark difference between nasiha, which is to give well-wishing advice. When you see someone struggling, you go to them and you tell them, my dear brother, I have some advice for you.”
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“we are not harming them, we are harming our own standing before Allah and the Day of Judgment.”
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Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

Today's khutbah reminded us that people's dignity and feelings deserve care, and that our words can cause real harm. When someone needs advice, we should approach them privately with love, humility, and a wish to help. The khateeb warned against spreading rumors, embarrassing people online, and searching for hidden faults. He also explained that we still have a responsibility to address wrongdoing with wisdom and fairness. As a family, we can begin by noticing our own mistakes, steering conversations away from gossip, and helping people of every background feel safe from our words and actions.

  1. How would you want someone to speak to you if you made a mistake?
  2. What could you say when a group chat starts making fun of someone?
Where it was given

The masjid

Islamic Center of Irving2555 N Esters Rd, Irving, TX 75062Jumu'ah First khutbah 2:00 PM, salah 2:25 PM · second khutbah 3:15 PM, salah 3:40 PMKhateebMuntasir ZamanMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at ICI95 khutbahs
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