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Own your flaws and your strengths

MJUM · Zaid Sharief

“We attribute all goodness to Allah azawajal and we attribute the shortcomings of our actions to ourselves.”

The khateeb, at 5:42

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In one sentence

True akhlaq begins with taking full moral ownership of ourselves, our shortcomings and our earned competence alike, instead of blaming others, because on the Day of Resurrection no soul will bear the burden of another.

The khutbah in 8 steps

  1. Opening: all goodness is attributed to Allah's guidance; all shortcomings are attributed to ourselves
  2. Redefining akhlaq: not mere kindness, but channeling every behavior and its energy toward what pleases Allah
  3. The hereafter as the measure: the Quranic principle that no person shall bear the burden of another
  4. Yusuf's example: admitting human weakness ('wa ma ubarri'u nafsi') while also claiming earned competence and trustworthiness before the king
  5. Musa and Fir'aun: acknowledging one's actions accurately, and never presuming or speaking for another person's intentions
  6. Modern blame habits, traffic, spouses, parents, children, versus Shaitan's blame of Allah and Adam's 'Rabbana dhalamna anfusana'
  7. Tawbah for recurring sins: don't only ask forgiveness, ask Allah to free and change you from the sin itself
  8. Abu Dhar and Bilal: the Prophet's call-out of remnants of Jahiliya and Abu Dhar's radical accountability; closing with Umar's call to take account of yourself before Allah does
Try this week
Stop blaming others (traffic, spouse, parents, children) for your own frustration, anxiety, and shortcomings, look at your own responsibility first
Never presume or declare another person's intention; give them room to explain themselves
When repenting from a repeated sin, don't only ask forgiveness, ask Allah to change you and free you from that sin
Channel pent-up energy and aggression into permissible, constructive outlets (exercise, a walk) rather than taking it out on family
Build competence and trustworthiness deliberately, these qualities are earned through struggle, not granted
Take account of yourself now, before Allah takes your account on the Day of Resurrection
Sources the khateeb cited
Quran 12:53
Quran 12:55
Surah 26Musa admits his deed but corrects the framing, we must not claim or presume other people's intentions
Quran 7:23
Quran 15:39
Surah 68Used for the scene of people blaming each other on the Day of Resurrection and Shaitan saying 'don't blame me, blame yourselves'
Sahih al-BukhariEven a pious sahabi carried traces of ignorance; Abu Dhar placing his head on the ground for Bilal's foot exemplifies taking ownership of one's mistakes
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“That we attribute all goodness to Allah azawajal and we attribute the shortcomings of our actions to ourselves.”
MJUM · Pembroke Pines, FL
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“It is the ability to channel every single behavior and the energy behind every single behavior towards that which will please Allah tabaraka wa ta'ala.”
MJUM · Pembroke Pines, FL
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Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah reminded us that guidance and every good thing we do are blessings from Allah, while we should own our mistakes and shortcomings. No one can carry another person’s burden, so responsibility begins with ourselves. Akhlaq is more than being nice; it means directing our behavior and energy toward what pleases Allah. Yusuf showed humility by recognizing both his weakness and his competence, while Abu Dhar showed sincere accountability after hurting Bilal. We should ask Allah not only to forgive our repeated sins, but also to free us from them.

  1. What is one kind of energy you can guide into something helpful this week?
  2. How is explaining what happened different from making an excuse?
  3. What does a real apology look like after hurtful words?
Where it was given

The masjid

Jamaat ul Muttaqeen1010 SW 196th Avenue, Pembroke Pines, FL 33029ArchiveAll khutbahs at MJUM35 khutbahs
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