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Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Jan 23, 2026.

Allah prepares us through gentle growth

As-Habul Yameen · Abdul Aziz

“We have to be gentle with one another.”

The khateeb, at 24:41

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In one sentence

Allah’s name Al-Rafiq teaches that He gently prepares people for growth, trials, responsibilities, and Ramadan, so believers should notice signs, make wiser choices, and practice gentleness with others.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Introduces Al-Rafiq, Allah’s gentleness, and the importance of understanding and applying His names.
  2. Explains gradual human development as a form of divine preparation and mercy.
  3. Uses examples from Muhammad, Maryam, and Uthman to illustrate preparation before revelation, miracles, and trials.
  4. Applies gentleness to family relationships, religious teaching, and personal growth.
  5. Urges mature accountability, especially after forty, by responding to repeated warnings and signs.
  6. Calls listeners to prepare for Ramadan through fasting, extra prayer, remembrance, and night worship.
Try this week
Understand and apply the meanings of Allah’s names, especially Al-Rafiq.
Practice gentleness with spouses, children, and fellow Muslims while maintaining clear guidance and respect.
Pay attention to warning signs and make wiser life choices, especially after reaching forty.
Fast some days in Sha’ban to prepare for Ramadan.
Maintain nawafil, remembrance, and five minutes of zikr after prayer.
Use winter’s short days for fasting and long nights for tahajjud.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 25Gradual revelation is presented as a way to strengthen and steady the Prophet.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“This is part of His gentleness. And when you come to this world, when you come to this dunya, part of His gentleness is that He allows you to slowly grow.”
As-Habul Yameen · East Orange, NJ
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“We have to be gentle with one another. Gentle, your wife, yes, maybe, you know, she grew up a certain way.”
As-Habul Yameen · East Orange, NJ
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Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The imam focused on Allah’s name Al-Rafiq, the Gentle, and invited us to think deeply about what Allah’s names mean. He described our gradual growth and learning as examples of Allah’s gentleness, giving us time to prepare for responsibilities. He reminded us to show gentleness to one another and give people time to learn. He also encouraged us to take responsibility for our choices and improve the part of our lives still ahead. As Ramadan approached, he urged everyone to prepare through worship, including fasting, extra prayers, and remembering Allah.

  1. What is something you learned slowly, and who helped you patiently?
  2. How could you correct someone’s mistake with gentle words?
  3. What small act of worship could our family practice together before Ramadan?
Where it was given

The masjid

Masjid As-Habul Yameen224 N 18th St, East Orange, NJ 07017Jumu'ah 1:00 PMKhateebAbdul AzizMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at As-Habul Yameen37 khutbahs
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