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Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 3, 2025.

Disagreement should follow evidence, not ego

Masjid Jafar Community

“If I disagree with you or you disagree with me, it's not personal.”

The khateeb, at 9:31

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In one sentence

A believer should discipline the tongue and ego by answering religious questions briefly, grounding disagreement in evidence, welcoming truth from anyone, ending fruitless arguments graciously, and using Ramadan to build lasting worship.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Opens with taqwa and careful speech, emphasizing the tongue's power to harm.
  2. Uses a text-message dispute about women's rights and divorce to show why concise, focused answers matter.
  3. Argues that religious disagreement should center on evidence, not personalities, credentials, or ego.
  4. Urges listeners to welcome wisdom from any source, pause before responding, and learn through disagreement.
  5. Advises ending arguments once they become fruitless, doing so politely and cordially.
  6. Turns to Ramadan preparation: choose one to three acts of worship now and train to sustain them afterward.
Try this week
Answer religious questions briefly and directly instead of giving unnecessary background.
Focus on evidence rather than personalities, credentials, or winning.
Pause before responding, set aside ego, and consider whether a correction contains truth.
End arguments when they become fruitless, doing so politely and cordially.
Choose one to three acts of worship before Ramadan and use Ramadan to build habits that continue afterward.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“Somebody asked a question, stay on the point, and answer specifically that question. Don't make it long, don't make it the whole story.”
Masjid Jafar Community · Johns Creek, GA
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“So if I disagree with you or you disagree with me, it's not personal. It is never personal and should never be personal.”
Masjid Jafar Community · Johns Creek, GA
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“The minute you recognize and you realize that it's not going to get any better, You end it, and you try to end it nicely and cordially”
Masjid Jafar Community · Johns Creek, GA
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“I want to get myself mentally, spiritually prepared right now to say I'm going to focus on these few Ibadah.”
Masjid Jafar Community · Johns Creek, GA
Play from 22:34
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

Our words can either strengthen or damage our relationships, so we should speak carefully and answer questions directly. When Muslims disagree, the goal should be finding the truth, not proving who is more important. We should listen humbly, learn from wisdom wherever it appears, and avoid letting ego control the conversation. If an argument becomes fruitless, it is better to end it kindly. As Ramadan approaches, we can choose a few acts of worship to practice intentionally and carry into the rest of the year.

  1. What makes a disagreement feel helpful instead of personal?
  2. When is it wise to stop an argument?
  3. What worship habit would you like Ramadan to help you build?
Where it was given

The masjid

Masjid Jafar Community Center11005 Jones Bridge Rd #112 Johns Creek, GA 30022Jumu'ah “2:00 PM”, “Jumu'ah”; “3:00 PM”, “Jumu'ah”.ArchiveAll khutbahs at Masjid Jafar Community82 khutbahs
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