Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Jan 9, 2026.
True strength means controlling anger
“The strong one is the one who controls himself when he gets angry.”
In one sentence
The khutbah argues that anger is destructive and that true strength and Allah’s pleasure come from controlling oneself rather than seeking revenge, using violence, or speaking harshly.
The khutbah in 5 steps
- A story illustrates how uncontrolled anger can lead to violence, arrest, and imprisonment.
- Anger damages marriages, families, brotherhood, and mosque relationships, sometimes with fatal consequences.
- A prophetic teaching advises believers not to become angry in order to avoid Allah’s displeasure.
- Another hadith defines true strength as self-control during anger, not physical dominance.
- The speaker acknowledges that controlling anger is difficult and that people often respond with revenge, violence, or bad words.
Try this week
Stay away from anger and do not let it control your behavior.
When angry, control yourself instead of seeking revenge, using violence, or saying bad words.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Anger is bad behavior. All of us we should be away from.”
“the strong one is the one who controls himself when he gets angry.”
“All of us we go to revenge. Or we go to violence or we said bad word.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
The khutbah reminds us that anger can turn small disagreements into serious harm at home, in the community, and in the masjid. The speaker teaches that staying away from anger helps us avoid Allah’s displeasure. The Prophet taught that true strength is controlling yourself when angry, not overpowering someone else. Anger often pushes people toward revenge, violence, or hurtful words. We should practice self-control when anger rises and avoid letting it direct our actions.
- What is one situation where anger can grow from just a few words?
- What does being strong look like when someone makes you angry?
- How can we avoid revenge or hurtful words during a disagreement?
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