Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Dec 3, 2025.
True character appears in private
“The best amongst you are those who are the best to their families.”
In one sentence
True character is revealed in private, so Muslims must align their public image with sincere conduct before Allah at home, online, and in business.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Contrasts curated public image with accountability before Allah on Judgment Day.
- Examines public religiosity versus private spirituality and calls for ikhlas.
- Addresses harsh family behavior and condemns verbal, emotional, psychological, and physical abuse.
- Warns against secret online sins, harmful apps, cyberbullying, and negligent parenting.
- Exposes dishonesty and deception in Muslim business dealings.
- Closes by urging one Quran-shaped character and sincere repentance.
Try this week
Keep some dua, prayer, and charity private to develop ikhlas.
Treat family members gently and eliminate verbal, emotional, psychological, and physical abuse.
Remove apps or content that lead toward sin, put away the phone at night, and make sincere tawbah after lapses.
Parents should learn which games and apps their children use and address online bullying.
Maintain accurate business records, make payments honestly, and avoid hiding money or deceiving partners.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“The best amongst you are those who are the best to their families. The best to their families.”
“If it is an app that is destroying your akhira. Remove the app.”
“One excel sheet says this. The report that's coming from the contractor says this. Your records say this. And they don't match up.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
The khutbah reminds us that our real character is who we are when nobody else is watching. The Prophet Muhammad showed the same honesty and kindness in public, at home, and in private. We should be gentle with our families, careful about what we do online, and honest in our business dealings. When we make mistakes, we should feel genuine regret, ask Allah for forgiveness, and take practical steps to change. A good Muslim character is consistent, sincere, and shaped by the Qur'an.
- What is one good deed you could do quietly this week without telling anyone?
- What helps our family feel loved and respected at home?
- What boundaries can help us use phones and apps wisely?
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