Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Oct 3, 2025.
Haya must shape how Muslims live
“Haya'at doesn't just translate as modesty.”
In one sentence
The khutbah argues that haya, modesty expressed through dignified speech, relationships, clothing, private conduct, and public behavior, is a defining branch of faith that Muslims, especially parents and elders, must embody and teach to protect youth and answer hostility with prophetic character.
The khutbah in 4 steps
- Haya is linked to iman, spiritual life, and the defining character of Islam.
- Haya should govern private sins, opposite-gender interactions, speech, and vulgarity.
- Muslim weddings and public events must avoid alcohol and provocative mixed entertainment.
- Modest clothing, family responsibility, and avoiding harsh judgments are addressed.
Try this week
Parents and elders should teach haya and embody it in daily life.
If you sin, repent privately and do not boast or post about it.
Lower your gaze and avoid flirting, crude remarks, vulgar jokes, and sexual profanity.
Reject alcohol and provocative mixed-gender entertainment at Muslim events; elders should walk out when clear red lines are crossed.
Dress modestly according to Islamic obligations, with both genders responsible for their conduct.
Stop judging and labeling other families; focus on improving your own behavior.
Make prophetic honesty, integrity, compassion, and haya visible at work and in the neighborhood.
Respond to hatred and misinformation with patience, love, education, and good character.
Take reasonable safety precautions when circumstances make going out alone unsafe.
Make dua that the next generation absorbs the value of haya.
Sources the khateeb cited
Sahih al-BukhariUsed to argue that publicizing and boasting about sins is worse than privately sinning.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Haya'at doesn't just translate as modesty. Haya'at is translated as an internal emotion that causes one to act in a manner that no one will object to.”
“So, point number one, keep your sins private. Yes, don't do sins even better. But if you are doing them, ask Allah to forgive you and don't go tell other people you are committing sins.”
“Allah's not gonna judge you based on what they do Allah will judge you based upon what you do”
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