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Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Mar 3, 2026.

Release grudges before Ramadan

EPIC · Nadim Bashir

“Let go of the grudge, let go of the hate, and put that matter in the hands of Allah.”

The khateeb, at 24:10

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In one sentence

Carrying grudges harms spiritual and psychological well-being, so believers should release resentment, forgive when possible, or entrust justice to Allah before Ramadan.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Allah created anger, and Al-Ghayz describes suppressed anger without denying human emotions.
  2. Grudges damage worship, mental focus, family relationships, and work.
  3. Clean hearts bring peace, illustrated through hadith and Quranic descriptions of Jannah.
  4. Sha'ban is a time to prepare spiritually for Ramadan by removing resentment.
  5. Forgiveness does not require forgetting; when forgiveness feels impossible, leave justice to Allah.
  6. Memorize and recite the Surah al-Hashr dua asking Allah to remove rancor from the heart.
Try this week
Forgive the person if you are able to do so.
If forgiveness is not yet possible, stop rehearsing the wrong and entrust justice to Allah and the Hereafter.
Prepare for Ramadan by consciously releasing grudges and hatred.
Memorize the Surah al-Hashr dua and recite it daily.
Sources the khateeb cited
Surah 3Al-Ghayz explains suppressed anger and emotional control.
Surah 15Allah removing ghill from believers' hearts in Jannah illustrates peace and freedom from rancor.
Surah 7The removal of ghill and praise of Allah in Jannah reinforces purified hearts.
Surah 59The dua asking Allah not to place ghill toward believers in the heart is recommended for daily recitation.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“why would you want someone to live rent free in your head constantly over and over again”
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“let go of the grudge let go of the hate and put that matter in the hands of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala”
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Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khateeb explained that anger and hurt are part of being human, but carrying a grudge can weigh down both worship and everyday life. Grudges can make prayer, Qur'an, and dhikr feel dry while harming our attention to family and work. As Ramadan approaches, he urged us to prepare our hearts by forgiving when we can and releasing the matter to Allah when forgiveness feels out of reach. Letting go does not mean pretending the harm never happened or erasing the memory. He recommended memorizing and reciting the Surah al-Hashr dua asking Allah not to place rancor toward believers in our hearts.

  1. What does it mean to let go without pretending that something hurt us?
  2. How might carrying resentment affect the way we treat our family?
  3. What could we do this week to prepare our hearts for Ramadan?
Where it was given

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East Plano Islamic Center4700 14th Street, Plano, TX 75074Jumu'ah First Jumu'ah 12:30 PM · second Jumu'ah 2:00 PMKhateebNadim BashirMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at EPIC165 khutbahs
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