Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 11, 2026.
Protect your salvation by guarding your tongue
“The believer doesn't stay in a place where the people talk back about others or talk bad about others.”
In one sentence
A believer protects their salvation and relationships by controlling their tongue, avoiding harmful speech, and using words only for good.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- The khutbah begins with taqwa and introduces the Prophet’s advice to ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Amir: control the tongue, focus on home, and repent over sin.
- It explains that every word is recorded and urges believers to speak good or remain silent.
- It warns that insults, gossip, slander, mockery, and careless words can damage families, communities, and one’s standing before Allah.
- It applies the warning to anger, social gatherings, and online comments.
- It gives practical safeguards: think before speaking, avoid gossip circles, use the tongue for remembrance, avoid lying, and review written comments.
- The khutbah closes with prayers for guidance, forgiveness, Muslim unity, and protection from harmful speech.
Try this week
Before speaking, ask whether the words are beneficial, pleasing to Allah, and worth finding in one’s record.
Avoid gatherings centered on gossip, backbiting, or tale-bearing.
Hold the tongue during anger and keep it occupied with dhikr and istighfar.
Review online comments before posting, and avoid lies or harmful remarks.
Focus on correcting one’s own sins and family relationships rather than discussing other people.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quran 4:1Introduces taqwa, humanity’s shared origin, and responsibility toward family ties.
Quran 50:18Supports the claim that every spoken word is recorded.
Quran 17:53Commands speaking what is best to prevent Satan from causing conflict.
Sahih MuslimDefines faithful conduct as refraining from harming others.
Quran 104:1Warns against mockery, slander, and fault-finding.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“hold your tongue or grab your tongue stay at your house that means just focus on your house”
“don't look at others don't talk about others look at yourself look at your family and also cry of your sin”
“the believer doesn't stay in a place where the people talk back about others or talk bad about others”
“we should watch our tongue when we talk anything even sometime you know we didn't need to talk”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
The khutbah teaches that our words matter because every word is recorded by Allah. We should speak what is good and stay quiet when our words would hurt, divide, or anger people. The speaker warns us to avoid gossip, insults, mockery, lying, and harmful comments online. When we are angry or surrounded by gossip, we should hold our tongues and turn instead to remembrance and repentance. By focusing on our own faults and caring for our families, we can protect our relationships and seek Allah’s forgiveness.
- When is it hardest for you to stay quiet or choose kinder words?
- What could you do if friends or relatives start gossiping about someone?
- How can we make our online comments reflect the kind of speech Allah loves?
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