Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Mar 27, 2026.
Forgive toxic people and start anew
“We strive to pardon and put things behind us.”
In one sentence
When toxic relationships cause pain, believers should hold onto faith, trust Allah’s justice, forgive, start anew, and respectfully withdraw when necessary.
The khutbah in 5 steps
- Allah permits life’s hardships and uses them to teach patience and guide faithful hearts.
- Past hurts should be entrusted to Allah’s complete knowledge and justice rather than continually held onto.
- Family relationships can test faith, but believers should follow Allah’s guidance without abandoning their families.
- The three-step response is to pardon, turn the page, and forgive without hatred or animosity.
- The Prophet and Ibrahim modeled kindness while also respectfully leaving harmful or false situations.
Try this week
Pardon the person and put the matter behind you.
Start a new page and do not keep revisiting the past.
Try to repair relationships, while accepting that you cannot transform another person.
Remove animosity and hatred from your heart.
Excuse yourself from backbiting, lying, or other false talk respectfully and nobly.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“Allah will guide the heart that holds on to faith and Iman. Not hold on to the problem.”
“We strive to pardon and put things behind us. We strive to repair. Allah does not tell us to transform someone and change them.”
“And as long as you hold on to your faith, whatever difficult situation you and I are in, when Allah guides us and guides our hearts, inshallah we will always have what it takes to navigate through these difficulties.”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
Today’s khutbah reminded us that Allah knows the difficulties we face, including hurt from people close to us. The khateeb encouraged us to hold on to our faith and trust that Allah sees every word and action and will judge fairly. He urged us to pardon others, turn a new page, and work toward removing hatred from our hearts. We can try to repair relationships, but we cannot make another person change. He also explained that we can step away from harmful conversations with respect and dignity, following the Prophet’s example.
- When someone hurts your feelings, what could help you respond with faith and kindness?
- What would giving someone a fresh start look like at home or school?
- How could you politely leave a conversation where people are saying hurtful things about someone?
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