Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 25, 2026.
Repair one relationship with mercy
“Be the first to say salam, be the first to call, be the first to welcome someone who looks like they're alone.”
The khutbah in 5 steps
- Asks listeners to examine what it feels like for others to be around them.
- Describes the Prophet’s approachable, smiling, gentle presence with companions and community members.
- Shows his affection and attentiveness toward family, children, spouses, and people carrying worries.
- Explains the importance of meeting people according to their circumstances and being present at home.
- Urges listeners to initiate greetings, calls, apologies, forgiveness, and one relationship repair this week.
Try this week
Choose one relationship and identify what that person needs this week.
Offer the needed warmth, love, listening, attention, apology, or forgiveness.
Learn about a child’s interests and meet the child where they are.
Be first to say salam, call someone, welcome someone who is alone, apologize, or forgive.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quran 3:102Used in the opening exhortation to maintain taqwa and die as Muslims.
Quran 58:1Used to show that Allah heard and validated a woman’s marital complaint.
Sahih al-BukhariNarrations about Aisha and Abu Umair illustrate the Prophet’s attentiveness to spouses and children.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“what does it feel like to be around me? What does it feel like to be my child? What does it feel like to be my spouse?”
“when he was home he was home he was present in that moment when he was with the children he was with the children when he was with his spouse he was with his spouse”
“be the first to say salam be the first to call be the first to welcome someone who looks like they're alone be the first to apologize and be the first to forgive”
“pick one relationship just one and what that person needs from you this week give them that”
Talk about it at home
For the dinner table
The khutbah invites us to ask what it feels like for others to be around us. The Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, was approachable, smiling, gentle, and attentive to companions, family members, children, and people carrying worries. He met people according to their needs, stayed present with his family, and showed affection rather than saving his best behavior for public life. He also took the first step by greeting, calling, welcoming, apologizing, and forgiving. This week, choose one relationship and offer the warmth, listening, attention, apology, or forgiveness that person needs for Allah’s sake.
- What helps someone feel welcome and loved in our family?
- Who could we contact or forgive this week?
- How can we show interest in something another person enjoys?
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