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Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Dec 12, 2025.

Self-control is learned through patience

Al Farooq

“Your ability to say to that emotional trigger, no, then you are defined.”

The khateeb, at 4:56

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In one sentence

Because people are naturally weak, impulsive, argumentative, and ungrateful, believers should train themselves to restrain desire and anger, practice patience, gratitude, calmness, and sacrifice for Allah's sake.

The khutbah in 6 steps

  1. Distinguishes enjoying lawful blessings from constantly chasing the latest clothes, products, and comforts.
  2. Presents self-control as a learned virtue, especially when anger or emotional triggers arise.
  3. Uses Quranic descriptions of human weakness, ingratitude, anxiety, impatience, and argumentativeness.
  4. Urges gratitude, tolerance, calmness, and abandoning arguments, while treating setbacks as part of spiritual training.
  5. Highlights hilm, or tolerance, and anat, or calmness, as qualities Allah loves.
  6. Uses the cave narrative to illustrate honoring parents, resisting temptation, and saving generosity and good deeds for the Hereafter.
Try this week
Pause and resist retaliation when anger or another emotional trigger arises.
Thank spouses, children, friends, and others for their efforts and kindness.
Avoid arguing to prove a point, even when you believe you are right.
After losing patience, reset and commit to being fair, truthful, humble, and tolerant next time.
Honor parents through patience and service.
Resist chasing every new possession and reserve some generosity and good deeds for the Hereafter.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“your ability to say to that emotional trigger, no, then you are defined.”
Al Farooq · Calumet Heights, IL
Play from 4:56
“Next time, I'll be fair. I'll tell the truth. I'll be humble. I will still learn how to be tolerant. I'll be cool.”
Al Farooq · Calumet Heights, IL
Play from 17:28
“I was standing with the food in my hand from Ishaa till the Fajr, because I don't want to serve no one before my parents.”
Al Farooq · Calumet Heights, IL
Play from 21:34
“So please let us not empty our plates here. Let us save some of it for Akhirah.”
Al Farooq · Calumet Heights, IL
Play from 27:16
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

Today's khutbah reminded us that people are naturally weak, impatient, easily angered, and quick to want more. Islam does not ask us to reject blessings, but to stop letting desire control us or make us chase the latest thing. We become strong when we pause before reacting, thank people for their efforts, avoid arguments, and keep practicing after we fail. The speaker highlighted patience, tolerance, calmness, honoring parents, and resisting temptation as qualities Allah loves. We should enjoy what Allah gives us while saving some generosity, self-control, and good deeds for the Hereafter.

  1. What is one desire you could pause before acting on this week?
  2. How can you show gratitude to someone in our family today?
  3. When is it better to let go of being right than to keep arguing?
Where it was given

The masjid

Masjid Al Farooq8950 S. Stony Island Ave, Chicago, IL 60617Jumu'ah 1:00 PMArchiveAll khutbahs at Al Farooq37 khutbahs
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