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Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Mar 3, 2026.

Forgiveness begins by letting go of grudges

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“You have to learn to let it go, and let Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, handle the grudge.”

The khateeb, at 13:14

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In one sentence

Because Allah’s forgiveness is sought through forgiving others, believers should enter Ramadan by releasing grudges, restraining anger, and pardoning from a position of strength so their hearts and communities can be purified.

The khutbah in 7 steps

  1. Gratitude for Jumu'ah and the blessing of community
  2. The Prophet’s forgiveness at the return to Mecca despite having power to retaliate
  3. The meaning of al-afu and the difference between prophetic forgiveness and concealed revenge
  4. Qur'anic and prophetic guidance on restraining anger, forgiving others, and purifying the heart
  5. The example of the person promised Paradise for sleeping without resentment
  6. Abu Bakr’s forgiveness of Mistah and the call to enter Ramadan seeking Allah’s forgiveness
  7. A closing appeal for communal compassion, forgiveness, and relief for oppressed people
Try this week
Forgive people who harmed you, especially when you have the power to retaliate.
Release grudges and leave ultimate justice to Allah rather than waiting for revenge.
Discuss disagreements openly so resentment does not damage the community or pass to children.
Work on removing ghil, malice, and rancor from the heart.
Enter Ramadan and Laylat al-Qadr after forgiving others and seeking Allah's forgiveness.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“But he chose a more powerful course to be able to forgive when you're in the position of power.”
CVIC · Chino, CA
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“You have to learn to let it go, and let Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, handle the grudge.”
CVIC · Chino, CA
Play from 13:14
“That the person who is the possessor of the grudge, the grudge is slowly killing them from the inside out. And the person who is the object of the grudge doesn't even feel it.”
CVIC · Chino, CA
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“I never go to sleep with a grudge on my heart, with malice in my heart towards another Muslim.”
CVIC · Chino, CA
Play from 19:46
Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

Imam Jihad Safir reminded us that our community is an extended family and a blessing from Allah. He described how the Prophet chose forgiveness even when he had the power to take revenge. Forgiveness can be difficult when we are hurt, but we can work on letting go of the wish to hurt someone back. The imam explained that grudges weigh on our hearts and can spread through families and communities. As Ramadan approaches, he invited us to seek Allah’s forgiveness, forgive others, and grow in love and compassion.

  1. What could choosing forgiveness look like during an argument with a friend or sibling?
  2. How could we help our family talk kindly about disagreements?
  3. What could we ask Allah to help us let go of before bedtime?
Where it was given

The masjid

Chino Valley Islamic Center4711 Chino Ave, Chino, CA 91710Jumu'ah First Jummah 1:10 PM · Second Jummah 2:10 PMArchiveAll khutbahs at CVIC59 khutbahs
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