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Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Sep 25, 2026.

Sincere advice should begin with compassion

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“The occupation of the believer is to well wish for others.”

The khateeb, at 3:44

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In one sentence

Islam requires sincere well-wishing for everyone, practiced with compassion, wisdom, humility, and freedom from jealousy.

The khutbah in 7 steps

  1. Defines nasihah as well-wishing for Allah, His Book, His Messenger, leaders, and all people.
  2. Illustrates sincere dealing through the Prophet's conduct and Jarir ibn Abdullah's horse transaction.
  3. Explains that advice requires compassion, audience awareness, appropriate tone, and personal example.
  4. Applies nasihah to families, children, youth, elders, spouses, community leaders, and newcomers.
  5. Urges listeners to accept sincere correction humbly and give advice without expecting repayment.
  6. Identifies jealousy as a root cause of failed well-wishing and warns that it consumes good deeds.
  7. Closes with supplications for mercy, the oppressed, the deceased, and ethical conduct.
Try this week
Obey Allah's commands, avoid prohibitions, follow the Messenger, and make the Qur'an a guide for life.
Learn to tailor advice to the person's age, relationship, mindset, and circumstances.
Give correction gently and avoid humiliating, shouting at, or driving young people away.
Accept sincere correction without taking offense at the message.
Give nasihah unconditionally without reminding people of favors or expecting something in return.
Pray for those who surpass you and ask Allah to remove jealousy and malice from your heart.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quran 9:71Presents believing men and women as allies who enjoin good, prevent evil, establish prayer, and give zakah.
Quran 2:264Warns that reminding people of favors, exploiting them, or harming them can nullify charity.
Quran 59:10
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“Part and parcel of the legacy, the mission, the occupation of the believer is to well wish for others. To wish well for others.”
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“If you're hammering shouts, to your children, it's not going to go anywhere. They're going to grow up with rebelliousness.”
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Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

The khutbah teaches that nasihah means more than giving advice: it means sincerely wanting good for Allah, His Book, the Messenger, leaders, and every person. We should help people without humiliating them, and speak differently to children, elders, spouses, and newcomers because good advice requires wisdom and care. We should accept sincere correction with humility and avoid using our favors to control others. The speaker warns that jealousy makes it hard to celebrate others and can consume our good deeds. A healthy family can practice this by giving gentle reminders, welcoming people, praying for those who surpass us, and keeping malice out of our hearts.

  1. When is it hardest to give someone gentle advice?
  2. How can we celebrate someone else's success without comparing ourselves?
  3. What is one kind word or helpful reminder we can offer this week?
Where it was given

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Islamic Foundation of Peoria823 Salaam Drive, Peoria, IL 61615Jumu'ah Friday at 1:15 PMArchiveAll khutbahs at IFP41 khutbahs
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