Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Dec 5, 2025.
Strength means mastering your anger
“Who cares who has the last word?”
In one sentence
The khutbah argues that Muslims should follow the Prophet’s example by mastering anger, choosing patience and mercy, and using simple Sunnah practices to protect their homes and communities.
The khutbah in 6 steps
- Opens with prophetic examples of forbearance, including responding gently to a Bedouin.
- Connects uncontrolled anger and doom-scrolling to harm in homes and society.
- Shows how anger damages Hajj groups, prayer spaces, and masjid communities.
- Defines strength as controlling anger and links restraint to Quranic praise for forgiving others.
- Distinguishes hating injustice from treating people with mercy as the norm.
- Offers three responses: seek refuge with Allah, remain silent or leave arguments, and make wudu.
Try this week
Seek refuge with Allah from Shaytan when anger begins to rise.
Stay silent and leave arguments rather than saying words you will regret or pursuing the last word.
Renew your wudu as a means of calming anger.
Quotes
In the khateeb's words
“the only thing that matters when people are mad is that they have to win an issue even if they lose the entire community in the process.”
“Who cares who has the last word? Who cares who thinks you won or lost? Just leave it alone.”
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