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Character & conductFrom the masjid's own video, Apr 10, 2026.

Good character grows through self-control

Daleel Islamic Association · Amar Abdelwali

“Whoever believes in Allah Azza wa Jal and whoever believes in the last day then let them say something good or remain silent.”

The khateeb, at 11:48

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In one sentence

Good akhlaq is central to faith, and it is cultivated by controlling anger, guarding the tongue, avoiding needless involvement, and loving others as oneself.

The khutbah in 5 steps

  1. Opens with taqwa and introduces the Prophet’s mission as perfecting character.
  2. Presents four hadith as a framework for good manners.
  3. Connects faith with beneficial speech, silence, and responsible opposition to wrongdoing.
  4. Urges listeners to leave what does not concern them and love for others what they love for themselves.
  5. Closes by warning about the tongue and calling for self-control, repentance, and remembrance of Allah.
Try this week
Track recurring anger triggers and how you respond to them.
When angry, leave the setting, walk away, make wudu, and pray two rak'ahs.
Say something beneficial or remain silent, and think twice before speaking.
Leave other people’s business and matters that do not concern you.
Love for your brother or sister what you love for yourself, practicing generosity and sacrifice.
Oppose wrongdoing with your hand, tongue, or heart according to your ability.
Sources the khateeb cited
Quran 3:102Calls believers to taqwa and to die in submission.
Quran 4:1Connects taqwa with family and kinship responsibilities.
Quran 33:70-71Links truthful speech with corrected deeds and forgiven sins.
Quran 59:9Supports the companions’ preference for others over themselves.
Quran 9:65-66Warns against mocking Allah, His verses, or His Messenger.
Quran 16:90Closes with the command to practice justice, excellence, and family generosity.
Quotes

In the khateeb's words

“To apply this hadith, a person has to look into themselves. And look into your life. And try to hold some sort of account of every single time that you got angry.”
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“What are the data points of your anger? And the causes of your anger? And how did you act as a result?”
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“Whoever believes in Allah Azza wa Jal and whoever believes in the last day then let them say something good or remain silent.”
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Talk about it at home

For the dinner table

Today's khutbah reminded us that good character is an important part of our faith and how we treat one another matters deeply to Allah. The khateeb shared four teachings: control our anger, speak good or remain silent, leave what does not concern us, and love for others what we love for ourselves. He encouraged us to notice what triggers our anger and take steps to calm down before we hurt a relationship. He also shared examples of generosity and a mother's mercy toward her children to show how meaningful everyday kindness can be. We can practice these teachings together by choosing our words carefully, being generous, and asking Allah to help us improve our character.

  1. What could help you pause before saying something hurtful when you feel angry?
  2. What kind or helpful words could you offer someone tomorrow?
  3. What is something you enjoy that you could share with someone else this week?
Where it was given

The masjid

Daleel Islamic Association3545 Kingston Rd, Lower Level, Toronto, ON M1M 1R6Jumu'ah Jumma | 1:30 PMKhateebAmar AbdelwaliMore khutbahsArchiveAll khutbahs at Daleel Islamic Association43 khutbahs
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